Why Do We Feel Fear?

The greatest shackles we wear in life are those forged by our own fear. Fear is a survival mechanism we use to prevent ourselves from getting hurt or risking ridicule as a result of failure.

We must not try to find escape so we can hide from pain because ultimately, in the end, it will be more painful. Some methods of escape that are used are; narcotics, alcohol, or behavioral attitudes such as; denial, disinterest, indifference or reserved nature.

Instead, becoming more interested and engaged in other people’s lives will lessen the time we spend thinking negatively about our own life. Stay pleasantly busy.

Let’s re-adjust our way of thinking by realizing that failure is not the enemy of success; just the stepping stone to achievement. If we cannot hit our target, then we must adjust our aim so it will be easier to achieve. Remember that failure is not absolute; it is experimental. Everywhere we look in history we witness examples of brilliant people that started off with an idea that failed the first few times until it became a success. The trick is not in witnessing the failure, but in recognizing that perseverance and determination will ultimately destroy fear.

Remember: To fly we must first accept the possibility of falling.

 

~Christine Iliadis

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Next Writer’s Block Meeting

Hi Everyone, I am a local author in Ajax Christine Iliadis. I have published, ‘Paradox of Freedom’. I am inviting Writers of any caliber to an open session where we all come together as a writing community to discuss writing stumbling blocks, provide encouraging feedback over a coffee on Wed Feb 8th@7 pm at the Ajax Library main branch on 55 Harwood avenue. It’s from 7-8:30 and please bring a notebook, pen and a fellow writer that you know. All my sessions are free.

Will you be able to make it this Wednesday? contact me: https://www.facebook.com/groups/christineswritersblock/

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Different Types of Supervisors

Structured:

  • Run a strict climate 98% of the time.
  • Operate a tight department.
  • Sometimes uses restrictive controls.
  • Expects his/her employees to be on time, orderly and highly efficient.
  • Permits foolishness only on special occasions.
  • Appears to be cool, distant and unfeeling.
  • Seems unreachable and autocrative.
  • Probably more interested in you and willing to help than you suspect.

Permissive:

  • Does not posses the presence of a leader.
  • Direct opposite to the ‘structured’ supervisor.
  • Free and easy-going leadership style.
  • Few controls and restrictions.
  • Most dangerous because new employees need self-discipline.
  • Gives too much freedom.
  • Acts as a trap that can destroy one’s desire to succeed.

Democratic Modern:

  • Most difficult to create and maintain.
  • Real expert.
  • Employees want to do what the supervisor wants done.
  • Supervisor is one of the group while still maintaining leadership role.
  • Not all employees can respond to this work climate.
  • Everyone becomes involved from inside the group.
  • Supervisor may feel taken advantage of at times so may sway to ‘structured’ then start to become more ‘permissive’ again to balance back to ‘democratic’ once more.
  • Better for the Corporate Company rather than an individual.
  • Responsibility toward employees and asks for high degree of loyalty and performance in return.
  • Avoids layoffs.
  • Allows employees to establish department productivity goals.

Tips:

  1. Avoid transferring negative attitudes to your supervisor that you may have developed toward other authority figures in your life.
  2. Expect some rough days under their supersvision. You’ll have lots of good days too!
  3. Refuse to nurse a small gripe into a major issue.
  4. Select the right time to approach your supervisor.
  5. Never go above your supervisor’s head without talking to him/her first.
  6. Try not to let your supervisor intimidate you.
  7. Do not make you supervisor your buddy.
  8. If you make a mistake, clear the air quickly.
  9. Remember that not all supervisors enjoy their roles. So try to be tolerant and sympathetic.
  10. Convert your supervisor into a mentor.

~ Christine Iliadis