Why Do We Feel Fear?

The greatest shackles we wear in life are those forged by our own fear. Fear is a survival mechanism we use to prevent ourselves from getting hurt or risking ridicule as a result of failure.

We must not try to find escape so we can hide from pain because ultimately, in the end, it will be more painful. Some methods of escape that are used are; narcotics, alcohol, or behavioral attitudes such as; denial, disinterest, indifference or reserved nature.

Instead, becoming more interested and engaged in other people’s lives will lessen the time we spend thinking negatively about our own life. Stay pleasantly busy.

Let’s re-adjust our way of thinking by realizing that failure is not the enemy of success; just the stepping stone to achievement. If we cannot hit our target, then we must adjust our aim so it will be easier to achieve. Remember that failure is not absolute; it is experimental. Everywhere we look in history we witness examples of brilliant people that started off with an idea that failed the first few times until it became a success. The trick is not in witnessing the failure, but in recognizing that perseverance and determination will ultimately destroy fear.

Remember: To fly we must first accept the possibility of falling.

 

~Christine Iliadis

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Why Do We Suffer?

Why do we suffer? It is within our suffering that we face challenges and difficulties which in essence, give us our lessons and strengths. The greatest learning does come from our adversities. Adversity is not a detour; it is part of the path. Thinking of struggles in this way allows us to embrace this difficult road which we must walk; it may, in fact, be our only path to success. Therefore we must not denounce our suffering.

Some problems may be more difficult than others however how we deal with our problems is what truly matters. So we must select if we will be the whiner-or-winner and if we will resort to being the victim-or-victor?

Other times our struggles come from an external conflict. If this involves animosity or grudge, learn to forgive and let go so that you can move forward. Forgiveness can be unnerving, so when it overwhelms you think of this following phrase.

The ship releases its anchor not for the anchor’s benefit, but for the ship; as forgiveness does less for the forgiven than to the forgiver.

Release resentment = Freedom

 

~Christine Iliadis

Next Writer’s Block Meeting

Hi Everyone, I am a local author in Ajax Christine Iliadis. I have published, ‘Paradox of Freedom’. I am inviting Writers of any caliber to an open session where we all come together as a writing community to discuss writing stumbling blocks, provide encouraging feedback over a coffee on Wed Feb 8th@7 pm at the Ajax Library main branch on 55 Harwood avenue. It’s from 7-8:30 and please bring a notebook, pen and a fellow writer that you know. All my sessions are free.

Will you be able to make it this Wednesday? contact me: https://www.facebook.com/groups/christineswritersblock/

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Excuse Me While I Kiss the Sky!

 

As I gazed up at the sky while sitting on my deck, sipping a cup of coffee, waiting for a stroke of genius to finally fill that place where the cursor once flashed at me from my laptop. It occurred to me that the parallelism between being a writer and the mighty sky is overwhelming. The sky is my safe haven. So while others try to reach it; I will kiss it!

A Writers struggle is as endless as the sky. We cope with poverty as we write our first draft of our masterpiece. Then we are faced with self-criticism as we edit our own work realizing that nothing is as it seems and our passion is as unending as the sky itself. This is similar to how we strive to complete the best query for a potential publisher, only to have it rejected. Our persistence must be fierce, relentless and inexhaustible as is the sky.

Writers must have a universal abundance of imagination as there is a universal abundance of sky that encompasses our Earth. The creativity that flows from a writer has to be unlimited in order for infinite possibilities to surface. We need to be able to have timeless determination as we face the challenges of cycles that we go through as a writer between writer’s block and negative reactions from others’. We must be persistent as the sky persists to accept dusk till dawn cycles with timeless repetition.

As a Writer I want to dig deeper into the feelings and impressions that the sky’s ambience releases. Every time that I look up at the sky it gives me a sense of inner freedom and tranquility. Sunrise greets me with a kiss on the cheek a waiting the eventful and productive day that is about to unfold.

Its daytime splendor when a blue sky is above, offers a happy sensation of bliss when the sunshine glistens off of every one of God’s creations casting off impeccable beauty.

On a rainy day I feel an obligatory duty to curl up to a good book with a soft, fluffy blanket and a steamy hot cup of coffee. Anticipation awaits as I am greeted with unique characters with every page that I turn. Each chapter is as inviting as each day that greets me.

Sunset is majestic with the shades of pinks, oranges and reds that present a sense of romantic emotions that make us feel vulnerable to its magnitude. As night approaches a peaceful lull cascades that side of the Earth as every life form cools and relaxes.

Whether or not the city sleeps, the overwhelming sense of our Creator embraces us regardless the cycle. So you can see the many similarities between the sky and a writer. The sky welcomes every moment with a kiss so excuse me while I kiss the sky.  

By Christine Iliadis